Approachable: easy to meet, know and talk to. Does this describe you? Or is something not quite working? Exactly how can you increase your approachability factor and how can you affect this part of your product to make it more affective?
I’m sure, by now, you must know that 70% of how you present yourself upon first meetings can influence a person’s opinion of you – for the rest of your life. Notice I used the word “can”. Normally that is dependent on whether you ever see the person again. If you never see them again, and the first impression was negative, I’m afraid you blew it. But – if your first impression was just “so, so” you can improve on it the second time around! Read on.
We get subconscious verbal and non-verbal clues from first impressions. Bearing in mind that the eye sees from top to bottom, left to right, the first thing people see is your personality zone. This is the area from the shoulders up. It’s a split-second glance. Then the eye begins automatically viewing the entire person. This encompasses all verbal and non-verbal cues and physical appearance. Whether it’s online or in person, in nano-seconds we “size them up”. So how can we increase our Approachability Factor?
Seven steps to being more approachable:
1) When meeting someone in person, give them a smile and look them in the eye when shaking hands.
2) Upon first meeting avoid a humorous response, unless you are sure the person has “connected” with you.
3) In conversation, always put the other person first by focusing on them, not on you (or your cell phone).
4) Assume an “open” posture not a defensive one. Also try “mirroring” the other person’s physical posturing.
5) Upon first meeting, compliment something nice about them.
6) Be ‘in the moment”. Every encounter is an opportunity to explore new relationships!
7) Emanate warmth, a caring nature and humble confidence.
Being more approachable may not just win more friends, but may also get you the dream job you have been seeking!
Question: Today I’m going to be more approachable by trying . . ?