Our Gender differences: Wow, that’s a huge cavern to explore.
His newest book, “Work with Me: The 8 Blind Spots Between Men and Women in Business”, www.marsvenus.com, is getting a lot of attention. He co-authored this book with Barbara Annis, Chair Emeritus of the Women’s Leadership Board at Harvard Kennedy School and a leading expert on Gender Intelligence in the workplace. John was a featured guest on the CBS Morning Show today. It was interesting and great support for Chapter 9 in my book, “You’re Not Too Busy to Be Fabulous!” www.ImagebyCheeba.com. Our thoughts parallel in many ways.
Primarily, I think women intuitively “get it. We are relationship-based and they are not. It seems that no matter how hard we try to help them acquire these characteristics, it’s just not in their genetic makeup. They are protective. They are spear-chuckers and hunters. And that’s a good thing. It makes us feel safe.
Sometimes we are temporarily blinded by gender differences. It goes like this: “Let’s go out for coffee!” Agreed. The two of you go to your fave haunt and he sits and reads a paper when you had in mind a more intimate conversation time. Arrrgh!!! Tip: Also, in order not to become invisible, do not let your fella sit facing any TV screen in a restaurant.
Let me give you another gender example: My wonderful husband teaches change initiatives, (pg. 87 of my book) but was incredibly resistant to any changes in his home life. If I even moved a picture in the living room, he was disoriented, resistive and sometimes downright cranky. Heaven help us if I moved the furniture around!
But guess what? He’s learning. He’s learning that the same change initiatives he teaches apply at home. As a result, the more receptive he seems to be to the next change, and the next, and so on. Or . . . maybe he’s just given in. Who really knows? They are an enigma, Girls.
Question: Do you have a husband-in-training? What are you doing to work through any gender differences?