Have you ever met a woman who immediately impresses you as “calm, cool and collected,” but at the same time is energetic, warm and friendly? She has a certain element that draws you to her, but she seems to be unaware of her impact? That is a woman with personal presence.
Presence can never just “happen.”It may be a natural element of the personality, or a well-learned attribute but it isn’t accidental.It consists of your God-given energy, your confidence, your appearance, your non-verbal skills, persuasiveness and charm, your knowledge of manners, and your ability to make others feel like a million bucks.
Presentation starts with the moment you enter a room. So let’s take a quick peek at how to effectively enter a room: Prior to entering a room, visit the restroom for a last-minute grooming check. Hopefully, in your cosmetic bag, you will have a tweezers in your tiny Swiss Army pocket knife just in case you have to pull a nose, brow or facial hair.
Look for any un-zipped zippers, un-tied belts, possible hosiery runs (always carry an extra pair!), lipstick on your teeth, food stuck in your teeth, and last minute cosmetic and hair touch-ups. Also, ditch the gum. Enter the room with a polite smile (and a prayer.)
Take a moment to survey the room. Locate the food/beverage area, and make note of conversation groups. There may be someone there that you know or that simply looks interesting. Here, you can easily listen in so that you can safely enter an on-going conversation. You will be listening for commonalities, and values that are similar to yours so you have a basis for communication. Ask them what they do, then LISTEN. The greatest compliment you can give another is to listen, and listen actively.